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Welcome! I’m Bernice McDonald
My goal is to inspire you with the TOOLS to get you up out of the cinder pile your divorce left you in and to help you find you a new Story…YOUR Cinderella story.
In short, I’m here to help you discover you NEW “Happily Ever After” just like I found mine.
Good news! What does it take to find that Cinderella inside of you – (maybe for the first time)?
- A broken heart.
- A life that often feels stuck doing what you have to do
- Negativity and Fear shouting at you from all directions like wicked stepsisters
- A teeny bit of courage… and A PLAN!
”Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something else is more important than the fear.” (Ambrose Redmoon)
So here is how the Never Give Up on True Love Community helps you write your new Cinderella Story and puts you back onto the path that leads to True Love:
The “I AM Cinderella” Single Coaching Session
1. Together we will chart exactly where you are right now. It’s important to see things as they are but not worse than they are.
2. Next, we will face your heart. What do you really need? What do you understand about what it will take to meet those needs?
3. Then, you will have a chance to think through what you really want? From life. From yourself. In a man….?
4. You will come away with a 1 year Plan that will start you walking down that path toward freedom from pain and a new love IF that’s what you decide you want!
”The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” (Lao Tzu)
This is that one step.
It’s time to stop wandering around feeling as if you are under water.
It’s time to set your feet on solid ground and find that amazing person inside.
It’s your time to find the beauty that you are….unlike anyone else ever born!
It’s time to take care of your own heart.
You ARE Cinderella!
No matter what has happened in the past…
No matter what you have been called or told about yourself…
You have Cinderella inside of you – and it’s time to give yourself the gift of drawing her out.
Step into her shoes NOW and take possession of that rich, loving life you desire to live.
You are worth it.
A question for you: If you remain as you are right now, who will you be in 10 years?
You have people who need you to love them and a difference to make in the world.
You have a Prince Charming (yes, you do) looking for you – waiting to love you .
And he needs all the love you can give him from the depths of your beautiful heart.
The Journey of the Broken Heart
It seems that those who go through this are either so afraid of relationship they resolve never to go there again or they jump at the first person who tells them they are in any way remotely attractive.
I was a jumper – mainly because, in my deepest heart, I still believed that true love was out there. I simply hadn’t found it yet. Well, needless to say, rebound relationships rarely work and I found myself worse off than before.
Broken, desperately lonely, I was forced into doing some very deep soul searching. It was a difficult and hopelessly lost time. Healing was slow going.
But every time I reached a milestone, I would mark it with a symbol of some kind so I wouldn’t forget. I wouldn’t let myself stop believing that I was going to get through this and find happiness again.
Not able to write or create, I found other ways express my emotions.
I joined a gym and ran and ran.
I spent hours at the park lying on a blanket to avoid going home.
I began buying lingerie that I was determined I would wear for a new husband.
I did what I had to financially, even renting out rooms in my apartment.
I started a “strength journal” where I recorded anything I did that made me just a little stronger, from activities to quotes to conversations.
When I was weak, I would go back and re-read them.
I cut out pictures that depicted the life I wanted, put words and poems with them that depicted my future vision, and put them carefully into what I called my “Dream Book”.
“God, is it too late to find a real Knight in Shining Armor…?”
And I dated. I tried every dating site, had phone conversations, read about dating and healing. It was scary at first but I knew that I wasn’t going to find new love sitting at home.
I began to train more in what I loved to do – coaching, of course, which led me into laser focusing on the niche I have today.
By opening myself up to new friendships, I started to trust more.
I was challenged to truly move beyond the places where my heart was stuck.
Step by step, I learned and grew and healed and the crying became less and less.
Yes, I kissed a lot of toads, which disappointed me more than once ,but I used this to propel me forward and keep me learning.
Amazingly, the more I grew, the more sure of myself I became and the less desperate I was.
I began to enjoy my independence and, even though I was nearly 50, it almost felt as if I had grown up.
I knew that I wanted to be in a relationship, to have someone with whom to share my life, but I was now more than prepared to wait for the right man.
“I will always believe in True Love”, was the mantra that ran consistently beneath my life even though I wasn’t aware of it.
And then he was there – my true love.
He helped me with my car “on a dark and stormy night” as he tells it.
He was everything I asked for, everything I had written down, and he was so much worth waiting for.
Someone is Waiting to be Loved By You
It took me 5 long, arduous years but I now know that I can help others find their way because if I can, anyone can.
This is why I am now focusing my coaching on broken hearts.
No one should have to stay in that place of pain.
And no one should have to be alone if they don’t want to be.