When you’ve been disappointed (dare I say “crushed”) by a Tree Stump Man — click here if you want to remember the definition: Tree Stump Man …did you know you are at risk of walking right into another relationship with the same man, different face, UNLESS YOU DO THESE THINGS…
Yes, it’s true. It’s called Relationship Insanity.
Insanity, defined by dear old Einstein, is to do the same thing over and over expecting different results.
Isn’t that why you’re afraid to trust a man again?
Even if you’re already with someone again, your heart is most likely closed up tightly and you’re not giving him your whole self – am I right?
So, Relationship Insanity is this: Falling for the same kind of man over and over again and expecting different results.
We all do it. I did it. At least 3 times after my separation but I didn’t know any better. I didn’t know that the key to healing your heart and finding someone who may be imperfect but was PERFECT FOR ME is to do this:
1. Close the Back Room Door.
You have to release and settle the past. Let it go. Let the wounds heal. Let him go.
How do you know when you’ve done that? You know when you can look back with love.
In other words, you can remember and see not only the times that hurt or feel the anger, but you can also be grateful for the good things. You can remember a few memories that will always be precious for you.
I can show you how.
2. Start trusting that YOU are worth standing up for – and prove it by standing up for yourself.
Spend active time in the Waiting Room, healing.
How do you do that? FOCUS on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Be OK with not being perfect.
More to come on this.
3. Refuse bitterness.
Let me say that again. REFUSE BITTERNESS.
To be bitter is to be sour. Resentful. Cynical. When you’re bitter, you are having a hard time accepting – so you just DON’T. You stay angry instead.
To refuse bitterness is to close the Back Room Door…accept being in the Waiting Room…create a life of soft strength and love to propel you to your Sun Room.
Become that woman who faces the storm – the tornado, the hurricane that ripped through her life WITH COURAGE.
Just like heat and pressure shape a beautiful diamond deep in the earth, determine that you will emerge from this as strong AND as beautiful as a diamond.
Do the DIVORCE FLIP – FLIP your thoughts.
- Instead of believing your life has ended, believe a CHAPTER in your life is over.
- Instead of seeing this as ruining your life, see it as a challenge you WILL overcome.
- instead of NOT BEING ENOUGH, believe that you ARE enough and losing you IS HIS LOSS.
There is a Diamond Strong woman inside who is many-faceted, desirable and unbreakable.
Let’s work on bringing her to the surface!