Discovering and Embracing My Own Magic / Learn To Trust A Man Again

Feel the Fear and Go After Love Again Anyway…

FEAR can be friend or foe. Keeping you safe or keeping you stifled…

If trusting again scares you to death, you should probably go for it.

It’s doing things that scare us that keep us feeling alive. You don’t want to stay stuck in the mud FEAR can suck you into.

Why should you give the men in your life who have broken your heart that satisfaction – the satisfaction of freezing you in time?

You’re afraid to breathe for FEAR that someone will criticize you.

Or tell you that you’re not good enough.

Or leave you.

Ask yourself: Is this who I want to be?

Or do I want to be the woman who gets up, heals her heart, finds her courage and HER OWN UNIQUE CONFIDENCE and goes out to get everything she wants to get?

Yes – there are highs and there are lows.

You get tired.

You get worn out.

You get your feelings hurt.

You don’t understand.

You fall back into the pit.

That’s called “life” – we all go through it but the SECRET is, you realize that’s what’s happening.

And you accept it.

You relax into that moment knowing it’s a low time. Expect it. Lean into it – BUT DON’T STAY THERE.

Your mission in this life, should you choose to accept it, …is to become who you are. Not the person who pleases everyone around her…

Not the woman who fears rejection so she watches every word she speaks, every action she takes so she doesn’t offend anyone…

Not the woman who says, “Why try? It will just turn out the same way anyhow.”

Stand up for that beautiful heart.

You long for a partner, an advocate, someone who cherishes the you inside. I love that word “cherish”.

Someone who truly SEES you.

That man who truly GETS you – doesn’t do things knowing that they are going hurt you.

Who protects you.

Loves you with all your quirks and highs and lows and unique beauty.

You WILL FIND HIM. Or he will find you, rather.

But only when you relax into being who you are, accept your fear and move ahead anyway.

Why does this attract a good man?

Because then he CAN see you. No guessing. No smoke screens.

And you leave room for him to be amazed at the real you.

If he feels good when he’s with you, he will come toward you because he’s fascinated and wants to know more.

He’ll feel good around you because YOU feel good around you.

That’s how men are.

They want to feel welcome and invited into your life.

They want to be able to relax and have fun, great conversation and maybe a bit of adventure with you.

When you are relaxed and just yourself, he can relax.

And he will get the vibe that you are not looking to him to make you happy because you are already happy with your life just as it.

He’ll come to know that are interested in growing into more, enhancing your life with a lively, accepting love.

So what are you doing about that Fear?

Are you learning?

Are you growing?

That simply means you are asking questions.

You are discovering how to be “you” and what makes you so afraid that you can’t move forward.

Why is it that you can’t put the man behind you and reach for the next one, knowing that this time you are not coming from a place of being desperate to be loved – you will be coming from a place of strength?

You know what you want and you will protect the “you” inside, your heart, and not settle for anything less than what feels peaceful and loving and 100% certain.

Yes, you can be in that place. And it will feel as if it’s raining men, let me tell you.

Start here.

As I always do, I will say that I can help you only so much as you read and think and possibly consider what I’m saying here. Please do that!

But the real help comes when you find yourself a Mentor, your “Fairy Godmother” of sorts, who hears you and understands where you’re coming from – and will stand in the gap for you.

When your heart is broken, you need a hand up from someone who will help you to watch over your life and get your heart back.

Find that person in your life!

Assess where you are on the Trust Scale.

  • Rate your happiness.
  • Zone in on what’s blocking you from loving again.
  • Design a simple strategy to move you ahead (once you get out of your head and into your heart with the help of an objective Mentor, the Path opens up. I promise you!)

Whatever you decide, please find someone to trust who can help you out of the mud of FEAR.

If you’d like to do the Trust Score Assessment or just talk to clear your head, here’s the link to book: https://FindYourTrustScore.as.me/

Author

bernice@bernicemcdonald.com
My passion is to walk you back to a place of passionate love after divorce. I have loved to write, to coach, to train the past 10 years, so that your heart can love again - powerfully, strongly, softly and openly. I found my over the moon, never leave me love. You can, too.