Rewriting Your Story

Give Yourself Time…

❤️❤️ Every time you go through heartbreak, you go back into the cocoon.
How long you stay there to let your heart mend, to let all you’ve learned teach you what you need to know, is up to you.

IF YOU BURST OUT EARLY, you will still be a caterpillar and will end up in another relationship that won’t work for you. You will be angry, hurt and desperate.

If you stay too long, you will make your home in the cocoon, afraid, lonely and heartbroken – forever hiding.

BUT If you let pain teach you, you will come out the other side in just the right time…a beautiful butterfly.

You will soar. Your heart will be amazing and gentle and strong. There will be a magic about you. You will be deepened, wiser, better able to protect your heart.

So what happens in the cocoon?

Every time you are deeply hurt, it creates a cavern inside like a deep well.
You can choose to fill that well up with anger, depression and blame OR you can choose to fill the well up with gratitude, love and a strengthening of all that’s good about you.

Filling the well up with a focus on all you’ve lost, all you no longer have or all you believe you will never have again locks you inside the cocoon.
But being thankful for what you do have – even if it’s small shreds of dignity – will start the healing process and keep your heart from hardening.

Forcing your mind to bathe itself in love will heal you. See the tiniest deed of appreciation, the smile of a stranger, the blue of the sky as a gift to you.

Receive it as love.

Realize that the one you lost was not able to love you the way YOU need to be loved. He couldn’t – for whatever reason. He had to go in order to make room for the one who COULD.

Strengthen all that’s good in you by building on what is good about you. Let your heart hurt. Put your arms around yourself as if you are a hurting child. Listen. Comfort. Understand.

Give yourself time.

Talk if you need to with someone you trust.

This is the time to understand what was missing. What you need in love.

This is the time to pick up the threads of your life. To switch your eyes to what you want in life. Who you want to be. What you want to build. Pick up that old dream and dust it off.

The butterfly emerges when you are least expecting it. Free. Beautiful from the inside out. At peace. Stronger. Softer.

What’s going on in your cocoon?

Author

bernice@bernicemcdonald.com
My passion is to walk you back to a place of passionate love after divorce. I have loved to write, to coach, to train the past 10 years, so that your heart can love again - powerfully, strongly, softly and openly. I found my over the moon, never leave me love. You can, too.