“I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I’ve ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, everyday we are together is the greatest day of my life. I will always be yours. ”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
Love. The longing to hear these words is written in every human being’s heart – no matter the culture, race or creed.
It’s always about the heart. It’s always about the desire of our hearts.
The wisdom of King Solomon written in the Scriptures says, “Without vision the people perish…”
Another way of putting this is saying, “Without oxygen, your body will die.” Just as oxygen is life to our lungs, so is purpose to our lives. If we lose the “why” of what we are doing, this life quickly becomes a series of events that seem cruel and heartless. But if you live, as Stephen Covey says in his book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, with the end in mind, your eyes and your heart will see differently. Instead of feeling as if you are going to shrivel up and turn to dust from the difficulties in your life, you will use them to propel you forward.
“Without vision the people perish….”
We see this force of “the end in mind” in all kinds of stories around us:
- The Prince faces the dragon and cuts through a mile-wide barrier of briers to reach the sleeping princess in the magical fairytale, “Sleeping Beauty”.
- Frodo and Sam, little make-believe hobbits, take on the world of darkness, quaking in their small boots, in order to destroy the evil threatening to destroy their land and all they know.
- Tim Berners-Lee kick-started the World Wide Web in 1989, designing and building the first Web browser, editor and server. His vision transformed the way information is created and consumed.
- Martin Luther King had “a dream” – a dream of freedom and equality arising from a land of slavery and hatred. He influenced huge strides in equal rights and the acceptance of African-Americans because he didn’t give up. He believed in what he “saw”.
To dream and to hold out until that vision becomes reality is so incredibly admired that we write stories with this theme over and over, passing them on for generations. Revering and honoring those who achieved what they set out to do, we call them heroes. In reality, they are ordinary, normal people who simply held a vision and moved toward it step by step.
Did they want to give up? Of course – often.
Were they ever discouraged and feeling confused? Read their biographies. Look carefully at what is written. Always, always, circumstances seem against them and it’s all up hill. But the secret is that they return to the vision again and again.
It has to be the same for love.
1. You must know what you want. What is it your heart is telling you? What does it need to feel loved?
2. You must be willing to do what it takes to find it. Training is all part of accomplishing a great deed. So train for love. Become the person who can love as you want to be loved. Find your strengths. Find your dreams. Become your own greatest ally and believe in yourself so much that no one can ever take that away from you.
3. You must be willing to go through what you must to have it. Yes, you must have the courage to try and fail as so many before you have. Through rain, sleet, snow or hail…. you are testing and learning and growing. To walk away from what isn’t right for you is to keep your options open for what is.
Love won’t fall into your lap simply because it’s the dream in your heart.
You can’t reach the top of the mountain without climbing it. The secret is to want it as much as you want to breathe.
- I fell in love with the wrong man about 16 times.
- I let myself be manipulated, cast away, stepped on, controlled.
- I made a total idiot of myself chasing what I couldn’t ever have.
- I spent countless hours praying for what wasn’t right for me.
- I was ignored, pushed away, pulled back, bounced around, bumped around, lied to, passed over and rejected and humiliated.
But through all of this, I never gave up on true love. I believed and I learned. I believed I would find it eventually and find it as I longed for it.
I didn’t know it while I was learning but God was protecting me. He was preparing me for the right one and that man wasn’t quite ready to be in my life yet. However, when that one who shared my vision for love showed up, I recognized him. We grew together, closer than I ever imagined. And it’s MORE wonderful than I could have ever asked.
My mission now? To save you much of the pain I went through; to help you understand the dream in your heart; to mentor you on your path to real love…. true love designed just for you, by you.
But for you to find it, and this is your mission (should you choose to accept it), is that you have to want it as much as you want to breathe.