Discovering and Embracing My Own Magic / Taking Care Of Your Own Heart First

What If I Choose The Wrong Man Again?

Fear can keep you frozen, afraid you’ll let the wrong man into her heart again.

Is this you?

You don’t want to be alone for the rest of your life but you’re afraid of it all happening again!

So listen…

Fear is meant to protect us. It’s meant to be a friend to warn us that the stove is HOT – don’t touch it again. Same will happen with love.

Get your heart shattered enough times and you know what to avoid – you will be so afraid of the pain that you will back off from all of it! (even opening your heart to someone if you do find someone new).

Fear is NOT meant to help us build a wall around our hearts so that we quit. We shut down and just stay safe so we never have that pain again.

The Risks

There are risks you take when you turn off feelings – shut down longings

Along with protecting ourselves, we lose so much!

We lose our ability to feel passion and laugh deeply –

…to go on adventures

…and learn new things even when we feel awkward.

And THIS is what life is about. It’s where excitement and joy and freedom exist.

We risk giving all that up if we stay away from taking risks in love. To close down a part of ourselves is to close down parts of us we don’t intend to.

Love is the best. It’s the juice and the joy in life.

I know you know what it feels like when you don’t have it. It feels like something is missing and you catch yourself sometimes longing…

So how do you protect yourself from the wrong man?

You rebuild your trust FIRST in knowing yourself.

Knowing that you will sense it when it’s wrong.

Knowing that you won’t commit to him or sleep with him or give in to him until you know it’s the right time because you have your standards that are pre-set.

It’s you, knowing your own values and feeling strong when you live them because you know what you want and you’re NEVER SETTLING AGAIN.

YOU are here – right now, right here, in this moment, in this place, for a reason.

You are being asked to open up – NOT TO A MAN FIRST – but to rebuilding your courage, your confidence and to finding the source of your true beauty again.

You are mighty.

You are so much stronger than you think.

Go to your heart and ask yourself, “What are the strengths I have built because of all I’ve been through?”

Just focus there. THAT’s the Diamond you. The woman who can power through anything, open up to love again from all over the place.

Smile.

Sing.

Learn to laugh again.

Hug again.

Give again.

That’s how you start again.

You are going to do this! You are going to rebuild your ability to trust again.

Author

bernice@bernicemcdonald.com
My passion is to walk you back to a place of passionate love after divorce. I have loved to write, to coach, to train the past 10 years, so that your heart can love again - powerfully, strongly, softly and openly. I found my over the moon, never leave me love. You can, too.