Loving With Your Whole Heart

How Do I Stop Living in the Back Room of My Past and Start Living in the Sun Room of My Future?

Even if the pain becomes overwhelming sometimes, STOP! Remember, you are walking through your Waiting Room while your heart heals.

Part of the healing is to be present there – not to focus on keeping your foot in the Back Room door.

Instead of how you hurt, turn your thoughts here:

What do you smell right now?

What is the color that stands out within sight?

What is that person really saying?

What color are the person’s eyes who is closest to you?

What makes you feel warm and fills your heart with love right here, right now, in this moment?

How does the breeze feel on your face?

What do you savor about the coffee you are drinking?

What is the one thing you can be thankful for in this moment, in the face of someone’s upset?

What is a value you can stand on right now that makes you stand up tall and calms you down because standing on it means you are being true to yourself?

Life today is not all about what happened yesterday.

Life is happening right now. And you are the one who can control how you respond to that. It’s a beautiful feeling. No one can steal it from you. Or force you to feel a different way.

See yourself closing the Back Room Door. You have to take your foot out to do that. Hear it click shut.

Now turn and face the Sun Room. YOUR Sun Room. See the light at the end of the tunnel, through the next door, in the next Chapter?

Step by step you are moving toward it. Each time you bring yourself back to this present moment and acknowledge your surroundings, you will find yourself staying here longer.

Soon you’ll realize that you are there – in your Sun Room! In the life you want to be living. Proud of yourself. At peace. And making your own choices, being your own person.

One step at a time. Don’t you dare give up!


My passion is to walk you back to a place of passionate love after divorce. I have loved to write, to coach, to train the past 10 years, so that your heart can love again - powerfully, strongly, softly and openly. I found my over the moon, never leave me love. You can, too.