Learn To Trust Your Heart Again / Taking Care Of Your Own Heart First

What’s Really Paralyzing Me and Keeping Me Stuck

Want to simplify what you’re feeling? Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of right now?”

Get to the root and begin to take the fear apart – and you will begin to move forward. 💓

There are so many ways we are afraid. When it comes to opening our hearts to loving again, a myriad of negative emotions swirl around in our brains. Anger, depression, anxiety, hopelessness, sadness… but underneath them all is that crazy little thing we call “FEAR”.

If you listen closely, you will hear its voice because it does speak to you. It tells you things about yourself and your life.

“It’s because you are too demanding that he left you.”

“This always happens to you.”

“You are never going to find anyone to love you.”

“It’s just so much easier to stay alone.”

Any of these sound similar? Or trigger what it’s saying to you? Yup – that’s fear talking.

Your emotions will lead you there every time. So that’s what you need to address – not the emotions. Your emotions are just indicators that something is going on inside your heart.

When your eyes are opened to that, you either stay stuck or you choose to grow.

How do I stop being afraid to love again?

The ONE thing to remember is that, for every person on this planet, fear is never far away. It is there is all its many forms depending on who you are and what’s going on in your life.

However, COURAGE is the other option when you are paralyzed by the fear. Courage is the decision to go ahead anyway – despite the fact that fear is on your shoulder shouting in your ear.

Shush him. Reduce those debilitating words to a whisper and make it background noise.


1. Face what you’re afraid of – name it. “I’m afraid that…”

2. Decide if it’s the truth. Be honest. Be objective as if a friend just told you what she felt.

3. Pull your shoulders back and stand tall – like a confident woman would. (Yes, this really helps. DON’T skip this step.)

4. Decide on one thing you would do if you weren’t allowing fear to control you.

5. Do it. You will be amazed how taking back the power from this little demon is going to lead to more and more freedom.

Let me know what you think below. Bet you’ve seen these steps working for you in your life and didn’t even realize you were doing it!

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My passion is to walk you back to a place of passionate love after divorce. I have loved to write, to coach, to train the past 10 years, so that your heart can love again - powerfully, strongly, softly and openly. I found my over the moon, never leave me love. You can, too.